Three Ways You Can Be More Empathetic (But Not Permissive) With Your Kids

Empathy can be tricky. 

Do you ever feel like you try to show empathy, but it only makes your child more angry or insistent on having their own way?

One of the first tasks I guide my clients through is developing a deeper understanding of how to use empathy.

I know you want to set firm limits without feeling like you've been railroaded by your kids. Resistance from our children when we are trying to stay calm and supportive can feel like a slap in the face.

Manage Difficult Behaviors With Three Magic Words

Do your kids nag, complain, or whine about rules and limits?

Do they attempt to negotiate or beg for more TV, candy, toys, or playtime despite repeated warnings that the issue is not up for discussion?

Do you interpret these behaviors to mean that your kids aren't "listening" to you? 

Does that make you feel like you have to set firmer limits, but you don't know how?  

I've got a solution for you.

What to Do When Your Toddler "Won't Take No for an Answer!"

Toddlers Perspectives:

"No" is the best word ever.
I want what I want, and I want it now.
Screaming "No" feels good. 
You can't tell me what to do.
I'll say "No" for as long as I want.

I want to share a story to remind you it is possible to set limits with toddlers compassionately.

It's not an easy task.

You're worn out, tired, and have other children to attend to, but you can guide your little ones back to positive behaviors (instead of demanding) if you step outside your agenda just long enough to find the compassion to consider their experience.

Discipline Burnout (Getting Back to Basics)

Do you ever feel burned out? 
 
Is the stress palpable, and you sense you don't have another ounce of energy to do what needs to be done, so you -

avoid

procrastinate

forget

You know that time of year when everyone is aching for a summer break...