Getting to the Bottom of Behavior

She did it on purpose.

I don't know what she needs.
He's not dysregulated. He was perfectly calm.
She chose to disobey because she didn't like my limit.
He knows the consequences and he defied the rules anyway.
She looked at me, said she understood, and then did it again.
 

Why won't this behavior go away? Does that resonate with you? 

If so, you are not alone. Many parents get tripped up with behavior challenges by trying to change, well... behavior.  

Sound crazy?

5 Secrets to Building More Influence With Kids

Most of the time our efforts to combat negative behavior get caught up in COMBAT. Tears and exhaustion reign and power rules.

Whose power is ruling, though? It depends on the day.

You might hear a "No" - especially a repeated NO - and assume your child wants to cause trouble or get his way. You may regard this kind of behavior as a threat to your authority and sense willful disobedience.