Can You Stay Calm When Your Child Isn't?

Are you comfortable sitting with discomfort? Are you able to manage your emotions before reacting to what you see?

When I was growing up, anger was such a common response in my family that a pattern of reactivity became deeply embedded in my thoughts and behavior.

My nervous system adapted to quickly respond to any perceived threat. I remained hyper-vigilant and was often accused of overreacting.

I lived in constant fear of the next punishment. I dreaded the thought of making a mistake or asking for what I wanted because doing so could evoke my parent's anger. 

As their anger grew, so did my rage - and my defiance.

As an adult, I had to learn to take care of myself before I could show up emotionally and be there for another person. I knew that if I wanted my daughter to learn to accept, process, and deal with her own frustration and disappointment, I had to make managing my anger a priority.

If you have trouble staying calm when your child isn't, then this TEACHable Moment is for you. Here are 4 tips for maintaining your connection to your thinking brain - not only during times of stress - but every day.

When you let go of judgment, you can let go of the anger.

Making the choice to be emotionally responsive and manage our anger before interacting with our children may not be the choice that feels easy or peaceful, but it is what must be done if we want children to mature and grow out of their reactionary behavior.

And I would love to hear from you! After you watch, choose a Level 1 & Level 2 response that you are going to implement into your daily habits, and then share it in the comments below and let me know your plan to expanding your tolerance and taking charge of your emotional reactivity.

Thank you so much for watching and sharing! Have a great week and remember - conscious, not perfect!

Talk soon,


If you have trouble handling your anger, listen to this FREE class on anger + healing. Click here to access Breaking the Anger Circle.


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