How to Build Self-Esteem in Kids

Each morning, I wake up with the intention to start my day with some kind of mindfulness practice. Whether it is meditation or some gentle stretches, I have learned the importance of not denying myself this time to quiet my mind and body.

Without fail, if I ignore my self-care, my conscious responses are diminished, and my reactionary behavior gets kicked into high-gear.

But what makes or breaks a day? What motivates us to begin the day with self-care?

One contributing factor is - how highly you think of yourself. Do you believe you deserve to be cared for?

Not consciously, I'm sure consciously, you believe you deserve to extend that daily practice into a relaxing ten-day adventure on some exotic coast (oh wait, that's just me - but you get the idea.)

What I mean is, if you don't think highly of yourself, if you demean your efforts, criticize your behavior with negative self-talk or demand more of yourself than you have to give, then you won't be inspired to care for yourself, and your self-esteem might be in need of a boost.

Self-esteem has gotten a lot of negative press over the years.

Parents have been blamed for a generation of kids who supposedly think too highly of themselves.

What I see is multiple generations of people thinking so poorly of themselves, that they have passed down an unconscious belief system rooted in unworthiness and insecurity.

My guest today, Dr. Sue Cornbluth, author of How to Build Self-Esteem in Children and Teens Who Have Been Fostered or Adopted, is here to show us that boosting self-esteem in ALL children is critical to their personal development and future success. 

If we don't feel good about ourselves, we can't modify our behaviors or adapt our thinking because we're stuck in self-protection mode.

We can't listen to others or be open to new solutions unless we have a core belief that we are deserving. That belief stems from the relationships we have with those closest to us. 

In this TEACHableMoments episode, Dr. Sue will share 3 tips for building self-esteem in children, and we’ll discuss why it is so important to recognize the signals our kids are sending. When you're dismissing a child, you're dismissing everything about that child. (TWEET IT!)

After you watch, we'd love to hear from you. Which tip resonates with you most? Were you a child of trauma or are you raising a child with a history of difficult or challenging experiences?  

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts!

Have a wonderful week and please remember, it's about being conscious - not perfect!

Talk soon,


     About Sue Cornbluth, PhD

Dr. Sue Cornbluth is a nationally recognized expert in parenting and childhood trauma. She has been named "The Top Advocate and Professor for Human Rights” by the Good Will Ambassador of World Peace. Dr. Sue Cornbluth, also known as “Dr. Sue,” is not afraid to express her direct opinions about the most controversial topics and she is often referred to as the "Power House" for child advocacy. Dr. Sue is a regular mental health contributor for NBC 10 Philadelphia and The Comcast Network. In addition, she has contributed to several national publications including the Associated Press, US Weekly, Foster Focus Magazine and The Huffington Post.  She also has her own parenting column in "Parents Express” magazine. Connect with her on Facebook - Twitter - YouTube - or on the web @

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