#1 Way to Keep From Losing Your Cool



When your kids are having a hard time and you're feeling impatient and annoyed, how do you keep from losing your cool?

Whether it's your children stressing you out or the people around you provoking your anger, do you ever find yourself self-righteously unleashing a hoard of buried emotions on others?

What is it about what other people think, say or do that makes us so mad? Why can't we keep our emotions in check when someone says something hurtful or critical?

I'm no stranger to criticism. 



I've received my fair share of unpleasant comments here on the web. And, I've had to consciously step back and process my emotions, so that I didn't let the opinions of others get me down or negatively affect my decisions. 

We can be quick to feel threatened, judge and react - especially if we've experienced difficulties or pain in past relationships.

Since we're social creatures, it makes sense that any kind of judgment, exclusion or bullying would lead to stress and emotional trauma. 

 
"Being excluded or ostracized is an invisible form of bullying that doesn't leave bruises, and therefore we often underestimate its impact," says Kipling D. Williams, a professor of psychological sciences who says that social pain causes physical pain. 


Social disapproval threatens our basic need for connection and belonging.

But how do we LET IT GO?


In this TEACHable Moments video, I'm sharing some of the "meanest messages" I've ever received, and the #1 way to keep from losing your cool.



http://ctt.ec/eak6bForgiveness is not a gift you give to someone else, but a gift you give to yourself. (TWEET IT!) 

We want our kids to grow up trusting their inner voices - but not their inner critics. Modeling calm and thoughtful responses is a great way to instill a compassionate, confident, and articulate inner voice in your child.  

Now, I'd love to hear from you! After you watch the video, leave me a note in the comments and share your story - when is it hardest for you to keep your cool?

Thank you so much for watching and reading.
 

Talk soon,
Lori
 


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