I don't mean do you let them "get away" with things? I mean, do you allow them to disagree with you without getting angry, judging, shaming or blaming them?
If you aren't sure, think about how often you...
- defend your limits by arguing until your child sees it your way, instead of allowing him/her to have a different point of view
- run interference between family members to avoid conflict
- mediate disagreements between your kids or their peers by telling them what to do
"You will not say "No" to me. I made my decision."
"If you cannot play with the toy together, then no one plays with it."
"Now, give your sister a hug and a kiss, and tell her you're sorry."