My child - like most children - resists any attempt I may make to control her. She will shut down at the first sign of a threatening tone or demanding voice.
Have you used your tone of voice to try and change your child's behavior or to try and control what's happening?
It can even happen without our awareness.
The truth is, there are very few times that we need to control the situation. Unless it is an issue of safety or immediate danger, we always have an opportunity to use connection rather than control and a chance to be an example of kindness and compassion.
Setting limits can be a challenge. But, it is our perception of our child's reaction that fuels our anger and pushes us into patterns of punitive discipline. When you hear a "No" from your child - it doesn't mean, "Suck it, Mom" any more than your yelling means, "I don't love you anymore."
But, in a reactive mode that is what we are likely to hear.
We can argue about limits, negotiate until we're exhausted, or give in to avoid conflict, but if we want to offer children the opportunity to build their skills and strengthen their brainpower - we have to connect before we direct.
In this TEACHable Moments video, I'll let you in on five of the most common parenting mistakes you might be making that turn conflict into chaos - and I'll share a few strategies you can use to make changes in your home.
What do you think? Leave me a comment after you watch and share in the comments the habit you resonate with most.
How will you use today's strategies with your kids?
Your story might be exactly what someone else needed to hear.
Thank you so much for reading and watching and please remember, it's about being conscious - not perfect!
Talk soon,
Lori
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