I recently had to take the time to STEP BACK from work, the holiday scramble, and all those things that had me rushing around, leaving little time for quality interaction with those I love.
Busy parents can be quick to dismiss behavior at face value, taking it personally or dismissing the force driving the behavior - especially when we are feeling stressed, drained or pulled in too many directions.
I was feeling drained and disconnected and I didn't even know it - but my six-year-old daughter did. So, I had to get re-connected to her so that I could uncover emotional GOLD!
Watch the video to hear how I learned of our disconnection and the time I looked beyond behavior to discover what was really going on.
*Note: I didn't express the entire conversation I had with my daughter in the video because it stemmed from a series of conversations with a back story that would be too convoluted to explain.
But this is where the creativity and uniqueness of YOU and your relationship get to shine. What I did only worked in *that* moment - because I used clues from the past to investigate, comfort and try to connect so my daughter could release what was upsetting her.
Know what soothes your child, how s/he expresses anger and how s/he best calms down.
There is a nonverbal dance that goes on underneath the layers of words and investigation.
Let it be organic.
Kids are never too young to develop their coping skills. Have your child's true emotions ever been hiding underneath completely unrelated behavior?
Leave a comment below and tell me about your experience!